Facilitator Joseph Redwood Martinez has integrated Nonviolent Communication as a core shared practice of the social enterprise he owns and operates in Phoenix, Arizona. He facilitates NVC learning and integration for organizations, individuals, and communities interested in collaborative communication. Recent clients include WikiMedia Deutschland, thinkfarm berlin, and Salt River Project. Joseph is available to facilitate a workshop in person or to provide remote tutorials on the following topics:
How to Listen (Empathetically): An Introduction to Nonviolent Communication
Our habitual pattern of communication is characterized by deflective listening: problem-solving, diagnosing, changing the subject, and so on. Empathetic listening, by way of contrast, is characterized by being present for another person without trying to change anything or project yourself onto them. The intent with empathetic listening is to hold a space for identifying the underlying unmet needs. In this workshop, we will look at the most common habitual reactions that block connection and then learn empathetic listening through experiential practice.
Empathic Presence: Deep Listening
In this experiential workshop, we will work in dyads to explore and deepen our capacity to be empathically present for another person. We will integrate NVC consciousness with somatic empathy and mindfulness to support a practice of deep listening.
Responding to Triggers with Self-Empathy
When we are triggered, we often experience palpable “initial feelings” – these are feelings often implicate the other and contain subtle blame, judgement, and criticism. “He makes me feel unappreciated.” “She made me feel taken for granted.” Instead of discrediting these initial feelings or saying that “you shouldn’t feel this way” we can actually use this as a point of departure in our self-empathy process. The process is characterized by recognizing these initial feelings and then connecting through to the underlying feelings and needs. In this workshop, we will use triggers, “initial feelings,” and common complaints as starting points for the self-empathy process. The purpose of this workshop is to give a concrete and realistic framework for integrating NVC consciousness into daily life.
In this facilitated empathy group, participants practice giving and receiving empathy in dyads and as a group. The empathy group is ideal for those who have already been introduced to NVC and are looking for a setting to practice, experience, and integrate NVC consciousness on a deeper level.
- Four Components of NVC: Observations, Feelings, Needs, Requests (OFNR)
- Discussing Needs Before Exploring Strategies
- Giving Others Empathy
- Getting to No: Saying a Compassionate, Life-Serving No
- Getting in Touch With Gratitude and Expressing Thanks to Other
- To Go Lists and Goals: Living in Service to That Which Makes Life Wonderful
- Creating a Culture of Collaborative Communication
- Empathy in the Workplace
- Enemy Images
- Everyday NVC: Aiming for Integration
- Giving and Receiving Feedback
- Working Group: Feelings and Needs